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When Writing Your Life Story Don't Forget Your Family

Video by The Atlantic At this year's Aspen Ideas Festival, we asked a group of writers, journalists, and producers to explain what makes a story great. According to House of Cards showrunner Beau. Great stories are universal Great storyt e lling is about taking a piece of the human condition (so things like birth, growth, emotionality, aspiration, conflict) and conveying it in a unique. The story of Alexander the Great. What we know makes him seem more like a character from Greek mythology than a real human being - and that's exactly how he would have liked it. Good writers often break rules—but they know they’re doing it! Here are some good rules to know. A theme is something important the story tries to tell us—something that might help us in our own lives. Not every story has a theme, but it’s best if it does. Don’t get too preachy.

By definition your autobiography is about you, but don't hog all the spotlight. Don't forget to mention other family members, especially brothers and sisters.

If you are reading this, then you are most likely the one in your family that realizes the importance of keeping a personal journal and preserving examples of family stories. Maybe your brother(s) and/or sister(s) couldn't care less, at this point.

Just give me a good story. When it comes to Artsiness, I have a personal rule: If I find myself deeply in love with my words, that’s a good sign I need to come back to that section and make some cuts later. Build to the climax efficiently. In short stories—emphasis on short—your plot needs to build efficiently. Every paragraph, every.

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If this is the case, just know that what you write about them today may be the only thing that their descendants will ever know about them.

I could share with you many great family stories, but here is an example of one that demonstrates my point above.

A True Story. Why Passing Down Family Stories is Important

In the late 1990s, I came across an individual with my same last name of Boyter. As you probably already know, Boyter isn't that common of a name.

I was 30 years old and, up to that point in my life, I had never crossed paths with a person with my same surname and not known immediately who they were and how we were related.

I was puzzled and intrigued!

On a side note, this gentleman lived only two hours north of where I had grow up and my grandparents didn't know who he was either.

We sat and talked for several hours that day, swapping family information, stories and looking at family photographs. As we talked I couldn't help but notice how his general look and mannerisms reminded me of my grandpa Boyter.

He told a story of his ancestor James Boyter who, in the 1870s, left Scotland and came to the United States with his older brother Alexander.

According to family legend one or both of the brothers found themselves into trouble for hunting on royal property. The story went on that these two, in an attempt to escape the law, fled to the United States.


The brothers eventually went back and brought their mother to the U.S. and became quite skilled masons and built many homes in the southern Utah town in which they settled and became prominent residents. Alexander ended up in Utah after the U.S. Army assigned him there.

I sat and listened as this man told me this story. I kept silent and held my excitement inside until he finished telling the story. I had heard that exact same story countless times at family gatherings all during my childhood. Now here was a complete 'stranger' telling me the same story.

I Immediately Knew How We Were Related!

It was a bizarre feeling. It was pretty cool as well. I immediately knew how we were related!

He was excited when I told him that I was a descendant of the older brother Alexander; my great-great grandfather Boyter.

If that story had been lost to my family over the years, I would have regained a knowledge of my great-great grandfather Boyter that day thanks to the diligence of life story preservation of the long line of descendants of James Boyter.

In this case both sides of the family had held on and had perpetuated the story down through the years. This is what I meant when I said that we should not forget to include stories of our siblings and other close family members into our own journals, diaries, autobiographies and life stories.

That which we include in the account of our life story, may make all the difference in the world to your brother or sister's descendants generations from now ... all because you recorded it in your own history!


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